Boys look to men, and men look to other men to define what it means to be a man. Together we must challenge abuse.
For too long women have stood alone. When it comes to violence against women, too many of us still think it’s “just” a women’s issue. In particular, it is about time MPs took this seriously. Here’s why.
Sexual and physical violence at the hands of a man affects a staggering45% of women in England and Wales sometime in their lives. That’s one-quarter of British voters. Voters. People who give our politicians their jobs.
Men’s violence against women hits people’s pockets, too: the direct costs to taxpayers of medical care, police responding to violence, courts, prisons, social workers, and refuges is £5.8bn per year. (The total cost to the economy of violence against women and girls including lost work time is estimated at £40bn per year.) Taxpayers can probably think of ways they’d rather spend that money.
Violence against women is a global pandemic? Like H1N1? Like in Contagion? No way. Think of your instinctive response to the idea of a worldwide bio-terror — that’s what your response should be to the normalized level of violence against women around the world. Because, here’s the thing: women are not a special interest group and fighting for the ability to live without violence is not a pet project.
Think I’m exaggerating, don’t you? Until I became aware of 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence, which kicked off on November 25, I might have thought so, too. That’s because we, as a culture, embrace the glamourization of misogyny instead of considering its ill effects and trying to change norms. As far as collective awareness goes, we’d rather pass — sexy is so much more fun than sad.
Case in point: anyone else find it interesting that the 16 Days campaign is bookended by the releases of Breaking Dawn, a movie that pivots on male/female violence, love, pain, sex and death and Girl with a Dragon Tattoo?
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo is not the original name of the series, the title was changed for the English language market from Men Who Hate Women. Steig Larsson’s trilogy, packed with explicit scenes of sadistic gender-based violence, is a global female vigilante revenge fantasy against male perpetrators of rape, trafficking and murder. The story, which features a man-repellant protaganist, was not originally designed to glamorize violence against women — hence the original name, which was simple and honest. However, the intent has been subverted by the name change and at least the initial marketing of the American version of the film, which Melissa Silverstein, founder of Women and Hollywood, described as the “pornification of Lisbeth Salander” when the first poster for the movie featured a naked, nipple-pierced, Mara Rooney as the violent and distinctly not stereotypically female heroine, being protectively embraced by a scowling Daniel Craig (whom I actually love for his cross-dressing We are Equals campaign).
The original name left nothing to the imagination or interpretation. Was the blunt and accurate title, with it’s unsettling and intense misogyny, too harsh, too indicting, too real?
Was “hate” too strong a word? Think there aren’t men who really hate women or think of them, because they are not male, as subhuman, which makes violence somehow more acceptable or inevitable? Maybe you think this is a third world problem, a race or a class specific problem? I know that there are readers who will immediately assume that I’m condemning all men for the actions of a few. In any of these cases, you might want to consider these statistics*:
Consider femicide, which is the murder of women because they are women:
- In the United States, one-third of women murdered each year are killed by an intimate partner.
- In South Africa, a woman is killed every six hours by an intimate partner.
- In India in 2007, 22 women were killed each day in dowry-related murders.
- In Guatemala, two women are murdered, on average, each day.
- Honor killings, the murder of women for bringing shame to their families, happen all over the world, including the US.
What about slavery, which is what trafficking is?
- Women and girls comprise 80 percent of the estimated 800,000 people trafficked annually, with the majority (79 percent) trafficked for sexual exploitation.
- This number is on the low end. The U.N. International Labor Organization (ILO) estimates that 2.5 million people worldwide are victims, of which over half live in Asia Pacific.
- Trafficking, in the form of the importation of female sex slaves and use of children as sex workers, is on the rise in the U.S. and internationally has reached epic proportions.
Still not outraged? Because if not, there are always euphemistically titled “harmful practices” — which are violent forms of torture and rape. For example:
- Approximately 100 to 140 million girls and women in the world have experienced female genital mutilation/cutting. Every year more than 3 million girls in Africa are at risk of the practice.
- Over 60 million girls worldwide are child brides, another euphemism if I ever heard one, married before the age of 18, primarily in South Asia (31.1 million and Sub-Saharan Africa (14.1 million).
- These numbers don’t include bride burning, suspicious dowry-related “suicides” and “accidental” deaths or other hateful acts.
Now we’re at plain old domestic and sexual violence:
- Every nine seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
- According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year.
- Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime.
- As many as one in four women experience physical and/or sexual violence during pregnancy, for example, which increases the likelihood of having a miscarriage, stillbirth and abortion.
- Up to 53 percent of women in the world are physically abused by their intimate partners - defined as either being kicked or punched in the abdomen.
- In Sao Paulo, Brazil, which is so much fun to visit, a woman is assaulted every 15 seconds.
- In Ecuador, adolescent girls reporting sexual violence in school identified teachers as the perpetrator in 37 per cent of cases.
According to the US Department of Justice, someone is sexually assaulted every two minutes in the U.S. (overwhelmingly women). One out of every six American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. That is almost 20 percent of our population and the US Justice Department acknowledges that rape is the most underreported crime in the nation.
Worldwide, the numbers are staggering for rape and sexual assault. Especially when you take a look atrape as a tactic and weapon of war. Millions of women (and children) have been raped as the result of the systemized weaponization of men to “dishonor” their enemies. Most recently, in the eastern Democratic Republic of Congo alone, more than 400,000 cases of sexual violence, mostly involving women and girls, have been documented — a rate of 48 women an hour.
Getting tired, depressed? Almost done.
At the end of the spectrum is relatively “benign” harassment, including sexual harassment at work and street harassment, which I’ve written about extensively in the past two months.
- Between 40 and 50 per cent of women in European Union countries experience unwanted sexual advancements, physical contact or other forms of sexual harassment at their workplace. Sexual harassment and street harassment are symptoms of a much deeper problem made viscerally evident by the statistics above.
- In the United States, 83 per cent of girls aged 12 to 16 experienced some form of sexual harassment in public schools. . Worldwide between 87% and 98% of women surveyed reportpersistent, aggressive street harassment that alters the course of their day, their ability to earn a living, go to school, feel safe, achieve equality.
Violence against women is a global pandemic-we must address patriarchy if we hope for an equitable future.
THIS. this needs to be taken seriously. this is what SlutWalk is about (i will speak on that since i organized one): changing rape culture to remove the violence against women. that stat about 1 in 6 women having been assaulted or raped? that changes to 1 in 4 in colorado. and these are just reported assaults/rapes. as the most underreported crime, the stats are probably a lot higher. i didn’t report mine, because, frankly, i was so confused as to what happened i didn’t know what to do. of our organizers for SlutWalkDenver, 2 of 3 had been assaulted or raped. 100% had been sexually harassed/experienced unwanted sexual advances. i feel like that state of 50-60% of women is incredibly low and inaccurate. it probably sits around 90%. patriarchy and rape culture insist that all of these things—rape, assault, harassment, jokes, advances, touching, hitting on, etc.—are compliments and women should be fucking flattered. wrong.
another scary colorado fact: denver has one of the largest human trafficking problems because it is the largest city in the western states. this isn’t some detached problem; it’s definitely happening right here.
the “what you can do about it” lists many places to get involved. i’d also suggest VDay.org. get involved with a local SlutWalk (google search; unfortunately i don’t know where my list of cities went) and if there isn’t one, start one. if you’re a male on a university campus, start a COMPASS group. unfortunately, the issues of violence against women won’t be taken seriously until men discuss and convince other men that they need to take a stand, which is what a group like COMPASS aims to do. look into what groups are available locally. in colorado there is the Sexual Assault Interagency Council (SAIC), Colorado Anti-Violence Campaign, Colorado Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Colorado Coalition Against Sexual Assault, the WINGS Foundation, the Rape Assistance and Awareness Program (RAAP), Moving to End Sexual Assault (MESA) and many many more. (feel free to ask me and i can email you a list depending on your region in colorado.)
A series of shootings and violent attacks put Washington, D.C.’s transgender community on edge this summer. Police hesitate to call the attacks hate crimes, but they’ve stepped up their patrols.
In late July, Lashai Mclean was murdered. A few days later, another transgender woman was shot. September 12, another transgender woman was shot. But the most shocking one: August 26 an off-duty cop shot two transgender women and a male.
This isn’t a series of hate-crimes…how?
The weekend saw riots tear through London’s Tottenham neighborhood. This video from the Associated Press shows the results of the violence and looting incited by both deep cuts to social services and anti-police sentiments felt in the neighborhood.