It’s a perspective that makes men feel better about ogling, about demanding. If it’s flattery, there’s no ugly undertone to it, no sense that the person you’re telling to take it off owes you, that you could turn on them if they don’t comply. But when a man experiences, gets driven crazy by it, it’s not really “some Kate Moss shit” anymore, and it’s not complementary. So much of pop culture is like this. When a man experiences objectification, or stays at home with his kids, suddenly, this arena that women have been playing in for decades is a revelation. How does it feel, indeed?
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1. He interrupts women that he speaks with
2. He expects to be given leadership roles far before he’s ready for them
3. He mansplains
4. He insists that feminism must make equal time for men and men’s issues
5. He continues to partake in media or activities that objectify/degrade women
6. He calls women he doesn’t agree with “bitches”, “whores” or other gender-based slurs
7. He feels entitled to the trust of the women he works with in feminist activism circles
8. He will not hold other self-proclaimed male-identified feminists accountable
9. He uses the tone argument on you
10. He is pissed off by this article
For the article outlining these 10 Fauxminism moves in further detail see:
Perspective on privilege blind spots and homophobia.
Honestly, Peta’s ads make me so angry I could stamp on a kitten. While eating a Big Mac and wearing chinchilla. If this has offended you, then I should make clear that my tongue is very firmly in my cheek. Which, funnily enough, was precisely the excuse Peta’s associate director of campaigns and outreach proffered when confronted with the criticism that the organisation’s latest ad, Boyfriend went vegan, all but condones physical violence within a relationship. After all, if sex sells, hard sex sells harder, and the sort of sex that leaves you hospitalised sells hardest of all.
• Arwa Mahdawi writes an hilarious piece on Peta - and why it has “tofu for brains”
Brilliant piece. Here’s a quote:
“Further, courting controversy for controversy’s sake has a troubling effect over time. While shock and gore still have the potential to be powerful, they have become so ubiquitous that we are gradually becoming desensitised to them. It makes no difference whether you’re promoting chocolate or charity: normalising violence can never be justified. We should cut Peta absolutely no slack for this latest ad just because, somewhere in the background, bunny rabbits are involved.”
agreed. this ad is awful. it ends with her walking back for more, presumably. all i can think of is the cycle in abusive relationships.
To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.
I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.
And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?
So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.
Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-
6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.
But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.
And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.
You. The rapist’s comrade.
And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…
Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.
-via Emma Woolley
Well, this is upsetting. According to a new study, people can’t tell the difference between quotes from British “lad mags” and interviews with convicted rapists. And given the choice, men are actually more likely to agree with the rapists.
The University of Surrey reports on the study, to be…
1. One in three women die or are seriously injured as a result of gender-based violence. Violence against women results in more deaths among women ages 15 to 44 than the total number of women who die because of war, malaria, and cancer.
2. An estimated four million women and girls are bought and sold worldwide each year, either into marriage, prostitution or slavery.
4. Approximately 96 million young women in developing countries still cannot read or write. Globally, girls account for 55 percent of children not in school.
5. Nearly 75 percent of those displaced by violent conflict are women. Displacement leaves women without access to health care, proper nutrition or education. Displaced women face a higher threat of gender-based terrorism and violence.
6. The 1994 genocide in Rwanda resulted in hundreds of thousands of violent sexual assaults, resulting in an estimated 250,000 women falling victim to HIV/AIDS. While many women awaiting treatment died, their perpetrators receive antiretroviral therapies in prison.
7. Saudi Arabia is the only country in the world that actually denies women the right to vote by law. In other parts of the world, where women are legally allowed to vote, many women still struggle to exercise their rights. For example, in Afghanistan, some women were denied the right to vote in 2009 because the country lacked the necessary amount of female staff members to provide enough polls for women.
8. With its rate of violence, sexual assault and inadequate health care, Afghanistan remains the most dangerous place in the world for women to live.
9. In 1974, Isabel Peron became the world’s first woman president, when she was elected President of Argentina. Around the world, 68 women have served as head of state in their country (not including monarchies). Currently, 38 women serve as head of government around the world. In 1997, Ireland became the first country to succeed power from one female president to another.
10. African nations have more women in parliament than most western nations. Rwanda ranks number one in world rankings for the highest representation of women at 49 percent.
While covering a story about an 18 year old girl who was raped and killed, Bill O’Reilly felt it was relevant to add that she was “wearing a mini skirt and a halter top” and that every “predator in the world is gonna pick that up;” oh, he also called her “moronic.”
So using his logic, are all these women on Fox News with their rising mini skirts “moronic” and asking to be raped as well?
Fox’s philosophy: Let’s use women in short skirts to hike our ratings, and then blame 18 year old girls wearing the same skirts for being raped and killed.
i’ll reblog this every time it comes on my dash
For the ladies! You’ll need a Ph.D. to make as much as a guy with a BA.
Ladies, just cite this the next time someone tries to tell you that systemic sexism might be a thing of the past. We can do better.